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Davy-Do goes fishin’

Little boy, do you know how blessed you are?  Of course, you did ask about 1,000 times for a fishing pole.  And mommy *of course* has been reading you a book all about How to Fish–how to find those big nightcrawlers, why you shouldn’t touch the body of any fish you plan on throwing back, how to put a worm on a hook, what the different sized hooks are called, and so on.

You have had fishin’ fever.

So your Dad “finally” took you to a sporting goods store last Saturday and bought you your very own fishing pole.  He bought one for himself and another one for big brothers to share.

Once you got home, you had to stand around and watch Daddy put together the tackle box that he bought.  He said he saved 20 dollars by getting the kind you have to put together yourself.  Saving that 20 dollars also paid for another lesson on “waiting patiently” for you, Davy.

It was hard to find worms in the middle of the bright sunny day.  You and I read in the book that nightcrawlers are easier to find. . ..at night.  But you and your brothers managed to find some small, skinny, reddish colored worms.  You put them in a dirt-filled Campbell’s soup can.

Mama pretty much kept to herself and let you boys have fun together.  That’s because when I did go down to watch, you almost cast your hook into my wrist.  That’s okay.  You didn’t mean it.  But, I figured I was safer if I kept my distance.

Davy, you fished and you fished.  But big brother was the only one to catch anything~4 little ones~.

So, you haven’t caught anything yet.  But that’s okay.  Mommy had to chuckle, shaking her head a little, when she heard you explain to your speech teacher about the “BIG ONE” that you “almost” caught.  You showed her just how BIG it was, with your little arms. 

Apparently, the need to exaggerate “the one that got away” is something that comes naturally to fishermen.  Even you young ones.

 

You were very patient

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Mama thinks your toes are cute.  All that sitting still makes your toes curl.

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the first catch~an itty bitty sunfish~

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Another of Big Brother’s catches.

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Daddy and Davy-do, like two peas in a pod~

Daddy understands your little boyishness when mama does not.

He says you are just like him, when he was little.

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I hope you enjoyed reading about David’s first time fishing.  I’m so glad we have 2 ponds so that he can fish without leaving home, although I’m sure they will be checking out other fishing holes in time.

As I was typing this, I could hear Grace and Davy in the kitchen. 

She just came to me and said, “Mom?  How do you make those waffles?”  (frozen ones)

“You just put them in the toaster, that’s all.”

“I did that, and they turned out mushy.”

“What?  What do you mean, mushy?”

I got up to go check.

“They taste AWFUL”, said David, when I appeared.

No wonder!  THEY WERE TOASTING FROZEN HAMBURGER PATTIES!!!!!!

(As it turns out, we don’t even have frozen waffles.  I have a small waffle maker. . . . . .guess I’ll be making fresh waffles this morning, even if it takes an hour to make enough for five hungry children.  It’s the least I could do after laughing at Grace long and loud *which she did not like*.)

PS, The toaster is a great defroster of hamburgers.

 

 

 

Davy-Do goes fishin'

Little boy, do you know how blessed you are?  Of course, you did ask about 1,000 times for a fishing pole.  And mommy *of course* has been reading you a book all about How to Fish–how to find those big nightcrawlers, why you shouldn’t touch the body of any fish you plan on throwing back, how to put a worm on a hook, what the different sized hooks are called, and so on.

You have had fishin’ fever.

So your Dad “finally” took you to a sporting goods store last Saturday and bought you your very own fishing pole.  He bought one for himself and another one for big brothers to share.

Once you got home, you had to stand around and watch Daddy put together the tackle box that he bought.  He said he saved 20 dollars by getting the kind you have to put together yourself.  Saving that 20 dollars also paid for another lesson on “waiting patiently” for you, Davy.

It was hard to find worms in the middle of the bright sunny day.  You and I read in the book that nightcrawlers are easier to find. . ..at night.  But you and your brothers managed to find some small, skinny, reddish colored worms.  You put them in a dirt-filled Campbell’s soup can.

Mama pretty much kept to herself and let you boys have fun together.  That’s because when I did go down to watch, you almost cast your hook into my wrist.  That’s okay.  You didn’t mean it.  But, I figured I was safer if I kept my distance.

Davy, you fished and you fished.  But big brother was the only one to catch anything~4 little ones~.

So, you haven’t caught anything yet.  But that’s okay.  Mommy had to chuckle, shaking her head a little, when she heard you explain to your speech teacher about the “BIG ONE” that you “almost” caught.  You showed her just how BIG it was, with your little arms. 

Apparently, the need to exaggerate “the one that got away” is something that comes naturally to fishermen.  Even you young ones.

 

You were very patient

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Mama thinks your toes are cute.  All that sitting still makes your toes curl.

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the first catch~an itty bitty sunfish~

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Another of Big Brother’s catches.

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Daddy and Davy-do, like two peas in a pod~

Daddy understands your little boyishness when mama does not.

He says you are just like him, when he was little.

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I hope you enjoyed reading about David’s first time fishing.  I’m so glad we have 2 ponds so that he can fish without leaving home, although I’m sure they will be checking out other fishing holes in time.

As I was typing this, I could hear Grace and Davy in the kitchen. 

She just came to me and said, “Mom?  How do you make those waffles?”  (frozen ones)

“You just put them in the toaster, that’s all.”

“I did that, and they turned out mushy.”

“What?  What do you mean, mushy?”

I got up to go check.

“They taste AWFUL”, said David, when I appeared.

No wonder!  THEY WERE TOASTING FROZEN HAMBURGER PATTIES!!!!!!

(As it turns out, we don’t even have frozen waffles.  I have a small waffle maker. . . . . .guess I’ll be making fresh waffles this morning, even if it takes an hour to make enough for five hungry children.  It’s the least I could do after laughing at Grace long and loud *which she did not like*.)

PS, The toaster is a great defroster of hamburgers.

 

 

 

Great thoughts on raising our children from you older ladies.  I was so very blessed, and tears streamed down my face as I read all you mothers explain your different experiences.  Thank you so much for taking the time to answer so thoughtfully.  I will be going back to read again and again.

One of the things that stood out to me was the advice to make sure that we keep our marriages alive.  To keep our husbands as our #1 priority, over the children.  Our children need to feel the safety of a strong parental relationship.

For the past month or so, God has been working in my heart when it comes to Rich.  He’s shown me some things that I was still clinging to in my own life (selfish ideas).  He showed me that I am still trying to change Rich in some ways, instead of changing myself to compliment him and his personality.  He showed me that I need to give more to my husband and to stop thinking of what Rich can do for ME.

There are many little opportunities throughout each day that I can take advantage of, to show my husband that I care.

It’s been a blessing.  I’ve repented of some selfish behavior, and Rich has noticed a difference.  In turn, he has been showering me with a lot more attention and thoughtfulness, too.  He would do anything for me, if he could.

What a difference attitude makes.  Attitude and a willingness to live for another person out of love and out of a desire to please God.

I have given my life to God. . . and to my husband.  My own agenda is back-seat.  I find so much more fulfillment in studying my man than trying to figure out new ways to make myself happier

What am I doing anyway?  I’m taking care of HIS house, HIS children, HIS needs.  When I think of it that way, a new tenderness comes into my heart. . .I want to make him proud, to make him happy to come home at night, to train our children to be a joy to him.

This morning Rich gave me, as always,  a kiss before he left for work.  But, he also turned around at the bedroom door and said, “You remember me today, and I will remember you.”

So sweet.  I like that.  We will both be busy with our duties, but in our minds we will be thinking of each other and remembering each other.

When we were in FL, we took advantage of the resort’s child care and we WENT ON A DATE. 

It was so wonderful.  We laughed and talked and spent our time at the bookstore and getting ice cream.

The laughter is what I remember the most.

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After 11 years of “How to be a Good Mom”, I’m putting myself through a refresher course on “How to be a Good Wife.”  I am a book-person, but in this case I plan on studying my real-life husband, my Bible (which is TRUTH), and my own common sense (with a prayerful attitude).  I’ve been learning another lesson–that sometimes my books put way too many ideas in my head.  I’m going to read less “how to” type books.  Call it “simplification for Shanda’s brain.”  In this case, a good thing. 

 

Dear Older Lady (question #4) “raising children”

 

What was it like when your kids grew up and became adults?

Was it a joy?

A disappointment?

Did they ever hurt you?

Was it hard to let them go?

How did you prepare for it?

How did you survive it?

Any tips for the rest of us?

What do you wish you’d done differently?

What do you think is the most important thing to remember about launching our children into adulthood?

Dear Older Lady (question #4) "raising children"

 

What was it like when your kids grew up and became adults?

Was it a joy?

A disappointment?

Did they ever hurt you?

Was it hard to let them go?

How did you prepare for it?

How did you survive it?

Any tips for the rest of us?

What do you wish you’d done differently?

What do you think is the most important thing to remember about launching our children into adulthood?

(praising God)

Mother’s Day 2008

 

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My arms are full. 

When I was a school girl I was often asked the question, “What are you going to be when you grow up?”  I always said that I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom.  And look what God did. . ..he gave me the life I always wanted.

I’m just so content.  I just ate a yummy breakfast made for me by my husband, I’m sitting here in my robe, and I’m grinning.  Just like in the photo.

I praise God for the life He has given me.

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My mom was a wonderful example to me.  She is the reason why my heart is so content at home, being a wife, and mothering my children.

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Happy Mother’s Day

“My soul shall be satisfied as with
marrow and fatness:
and my mouth shall praise thee
with joyful lips.”  Psalms 63:3-5

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“Training up a child means showing them how to:  make corn tortillas, pedal a bicycle, make up a bed, put toys away, cook for forty people in one hour, read, demonstrate respect for others, and a thousand other wonderful things.  For a mother who loves her children, training is not a chore, it is a full-time all-consuming passion.  They are worth every minute of time and trouble to every dedicated mother.”

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“Look into your child’s eyes and smile many times each day.  Take a five-minute break every thirty minutes or so to just play with him or her.  Never work alone; always have your ‘little buddy’ helping you.”

 

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“God has given your children gardian angels who watch them from heaven.  You are their gardian angel here on earth.”

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“How do you love your children?  By loving and honoring their dad.”

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all quotes from ~Debi Pearl

quote for mothers

 

“To Rose, ‘mother’ was more than a noun, feminine gender, it was an active verb, ‘the greatest career’, which she pursued with prodigious energy.  In her memoirs, Times to Remember, she elaborated:  ‘I looked at child rearing not only as a work of love and duty, but as a profession that was fully as interesting and challenging as any honorable profession in the world, and one that demanded the best I could bring to it. . .I have relished my role.’  She was teacher, nurse, social adviser, lay preacher, drill sergeant, camp counselor, and, in later years, campaign worker.  As her children arrived over a period of seventeen years, she considered her role in their lives:  ‘Whenever I held my newborn babe in my arms, I used to think what I did and what I said to him would have an influence, not only on him, but on everyone he meets, not for a day, or a year, but for all time and for eternity.  What a challenge, what a joy!'”

~Bonnie Angelo, writing about Rose Kennedy, mother of 9 children, including former Pres. J.F. Kennedy

 

 

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Today is my Aunt Colleen’s birthday.  So, I just want to sit here and publicly say how much I love her. 

Colleen, I am so proud of you.  You have four beautiful girls and a great husband.  I admire your relationship with Roger and I’m glad I was there when you two fell in love and dated and married.  Those are great memories.  I admire how you are able to work hard as a nurse, and also homeschool your girls and take care of your family.

I’m glad you and I spent so much time together, growing up (we are less than 2 years apart in age).  I’ll always remember your little room and staying up late.  I was always awake the next morning WAY before you were, LOL, and I would lay there and wait.  I’ll always remember our forts, our long walks.  Riding the school bus.  Going to church.  Visiting you in college.  Watching “The Sound of Music.”  Milking cows.  Your bird, “Whistle”.  Making cookies (always snickerdoodles) and eating most of the dough raw.  And you were the only one who could make me laugh so hard I would pee my pants. 

Remember the chicken and cheese?  I really wanted to take some “artistic” pictures of chicken and cheese, to make you laugh, but I opted for flowers instead.

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best of friends

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family

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shared memories

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faithful love

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tried and true

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Happy Birthday Colleen, I can’t wait until our trip next weekend, when we can spend together without our 9 children running around us. . . . . . .we can talk about our memories together and make some new ones, too.

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Some pictures from yesterday:

When I was busy getting lunch for David and Caleb, Caleb dumped his milk.  He was so funny that I just had to snap a picture.  His reaction to his spilled milk was one of sorrow and mourning.  “What did you do, Caleb?  What happened?” I asked. 

“I dumped my MILK all over da place!”  he said, tragically.

But when I took the picture, he immediately said, in a normal tone of voice, “Can I see it?” 

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Also,

We got a package in the mail yesterday from the FedEx guy. 

You see, when we went to Florida, I, of course, spent lots of time carefully packing the children’s suitcases.  So, I was pretty surprised, when we got there, to find out that the children had brought all these stuffed animals with them.  Their stuffed animals are their favorite playthings lately.  They all have names.  They are friends.  So, the children wanted to take them along on our wonderful vacation.

Too bad that it didn’t turn out to be wonderful for the stuffed animals.

A hotel safe was in the boys closet.  The very day we arrived in FL, Ethan packed all the beloved animals in the safe, shut the door, and pushed enough buttons to lock it up tight.  Try as he might, he could not open it again.  For days, whenever we were in our rooms, I would hear quietly desperate “beep, beep!! beeping” as they all tried to get their friends out of that dark, sad place.  We were so busy that it wasn’t until our last night of vacation when Rich called the front desk.

The only people who could open the safe were the engineers.  And they wouldn’t be to work until 8:30 the next morning, hours after we had to be gone.

So, these little guys had yet another adventure.  Imagine their excitement, when the safe finally opened again and they could see the light of day.  Instead of the smiling faces of their children, instead of being taken to Disney, they saw the busy, unamused face of a grown man, who scooped them out and promptly placed them in yet another dark square box.  They got Fedexed.

We were all finally reunited yesterday.  But one-eyed Charlie bear is still wondering where Cinderella’s castle is.  They went through all that crazy traveling for nothing.

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Random question:  What do you think of me, with no bangs?  I never thought to grow them out, but after I swam in the pool in FL, Rich really liked my hair all back from my face, so I tried to fix it like that again.  I’m sort of undecided at this point, about whether I should grow it out.

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Lastly, *this is a long post*, some pictures of Davy-do, on a little (but very heavy) tractor that used to be Rich’s when he was a little boy.

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If you mothers out there would like an inspiring read in honor of Mother’s day, may I suggest First Mothers, The Women Who Shaped the Presidents, by Bonnie Angelo?  Because I have mostly boys, this book is really interesting to me.  How DO you raise a future president?  No, I’m certainly not trying to do that, but it is very fascinating to read about all different sorts of mothering/eras in US history/different social standings/educations. . .that all led to a son in the oval office. 

Some nice, feel-good mothering quotes are peppered throughout:

“Her sons were privileged to spend a boyhood in her company, the memories were indelible. . .Mother was by far the greatest personal influence in our lives”  ~Dwight D. Eisenhower, speaking of his mother, Ida  (she had 6 boys!!  You should see their family portrait in the book, when the boys were all young, she has the best expression on her face, proud and amused is how I would describe her.)

Okay, that’s the end of a rather long post.    It’s time for me to go make pancakes for my dear little ones.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and that you take a moment to do something for your MOM, and if you are a mom, to remember all the reasons you LOVE BEING A MOM.  Maybe you could share a few with me today?  Or, perhaps share a special memory of your own mother. . . . . .

 

(random thoughts)

 

It is such a lovely morning.  It rained in the night. Last night was the first night we slept with the windows all open and so when I got up to make coffee I could smell the freshly rain-washed air.  The birds are happily singing.  I took my coffee out on the porch with my Bible.  I’m reading through Deuteronomy and finding such lovely phrases like

“And thou shalt remember all the way which the Lord thy God led thee . . . .”

” . . .fountains and depths that spring out of valleys and hills. . . .”

“. . .on this side of Jordan toward the sunrising. . “

“. . .mercy unto thousands of them that love me. . . .”

and I love this passionate verse,

“O that there were such an heart in them, that they would fear me, and keep all my commandments always, that it might be well with them, and with their children forever!” 5:29

and this one,

“Know therefore that the Lord thy God, he is God, the faithful God, which keepeth covenant and mercy with them that love him and keep his commandments to a thousand generations. . .”  7:9

(“a thousand” sounds so yummy, doesn’t it?)

Things I am thankful for this morning:

the hummingbirds are back and feeding at the feeders I have hanging on the porch

the ducks and geese that I have seen already today~the geese honk constantly as they are flying, what dramatics!

the rain we got last night (things look so much greener already)

my old diary that had me laughing and sighing last night (from when J and E were little, and G was a newborn)

my Bible~my favorite is the one I bought at a library book sale for 2 dollars

Christ in me~”Oh, to be like Thee, blessed Redeemer, this is my constant longing and prayer”

my family~my husband, especially

the spoonful of honey in the freezer that I found, which reminds me that I am a mom of curious children

my potential garden, I am itching to plant!  I plan on getting oodles of pansies and planting them all in a big mass someplace in my gardens.  I also need veggie seeds.

the tulips and daffodils I have blooming in the garden down by the pond, “big flowers” is what Caleb calls them

for memories, I’m thankful for my memories. . .sweet ones, ones that make me smile.  Moses kept telling the Israelites to remember how much God had blessed them and took care of them, and I want to do that too.  It’s a good thing to REMEMBER and thank God for His care.

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(2 years ago, one of my fav. pics of Caleb and me) 

 

We went to the library yesterday and brought home 3 canvas bags full of books.

I picked out one titled, The Seasonal Hearth, The Woman at Home in Early America, and found this great quote:

 

“For a good, everyday household angel, give us the woman who laughs.  Her biscuits may not be always just right, and she may occasionally burn her bread, and forget to replace dislocated buttons; but, for solid comfort all day and every day, she is a very paragon.  The trick of always seeing the bright side, or, if the matter has no bright side, of shining up the dark one, is a very important faculty; one of the things no woman should be without.  We are not all born with the sunshine in our hearts, as the Irish prettily phrase it; but we can cultivate a cheerful sense of humor, if only we try.”

The Old Farmer’s Almanac, 1889, Robert B. Thomas