what’s the special occasion? “life”

“The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.”

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“And now we thank you, our God, and praise your glorious name.” 1 Chronicles 29:13

We spent the weekend in literal freezing temperatures.  Saturday there was a wrestling tournament.  My brother Isaac and his wife Cassandra came and watched it with us.  Ethan came in fourth in his weight class.

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On Sunday, my sister came and dropped off Abigail and picked up Sarah.  It was Valentine’s Day.  Rich took Seth to compete at States for wrestling and Seth won.

While they were away doing that, I took Ethan and Tessa to Texas Roadhouse and dropped them off.  Abbie, Grace, and I went shopping at our favorite store, Sephora.  Also, as a nice Valentine’s gift for Rich and I, I went to Pottery Barn and bought a beautiful dark gray linen duvet cover for our bed.    When we came home, I found flowers in a vase on the counter from Jacob.  He gave me a rose, and he gave each of his sisters a red carnation.  Later on that evening, Caleb came by to take Grace out to dinner for Valentine’s Day.

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On Monday, I had a dentist appointment.  I had to have a filling in one of my very back molars.  It was not fun for a variety of reasons.  And then my face was numb for several hours.  After the appointment, I picked up Zak and brought him home to spend time with Jacob and Ethan.  I dropped him off at the house and picked up the kids and we went to see the movie Kung Fu Panda 3 with my sister, and we exchanged back our girls.  When I came home, I found that my new TOMS had arrived.  I LOVE THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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8:30 last night we were all visiting and chatting in the kitchen….David showed everyone a youtube video.  Aren’t these smiling faces wonderful?  (Oops I forgot to crop out dinner, which was meatloaf and everyone picked on it saying it looked like something else all together.)

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This morning I had my yearly check up.  I took Grace and Sarah along so we could go shopping together after the appointment.  We went to Costco and then Target.  We picked up Grace’s boyfriend on the way home.  When we arrived, I had all the kids help bring in the food and clean up the kitchen a little.  I was so very happy that all my favorite kids were here and so I took a portrait of them to hang on my blog and on my wall.  I love these people so so so so much.

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from left to right:  Caleb, Grace, David, Zak, Ethan, Tessa, Sarah, Emily, Jacob, Michael, Caleb (sitting on floor), and Seth.

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I have to show you a picture of the shoes Sarah picked out today.  We were in Payless.  She didn’t hesitate at all.  She said, “I am going to get these because I have NO high heels.”

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She twisted her legs so I could be sure to take a picture of the heels so Aunt Amanda could see them.  Grace was unamused at Payless, “She’s FIVE, Mom.” But then as we watched Sarah take her first wobbly steps she changed her mind, “Well, if you get them for her now by the time she’s my age walking in them will be a piece of cake.”

Since we came home she’s been wearing them nonstop and I have to say, walking in them is already a piece of cake for this girly girl of mine.

When we paid for them, the lady asked if they were for a special occasion.  Sarah said “yes”, and when she then asked what the occasion was I said, “life”.

‘Tis true, ’tis true.

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you are loved

wrestling photos

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I went to Ethan’s wrestling tournament on Saturday and I was too late to watch his first match in which he lost…..I arrived just in time to see this bleak scene.  I was able to sit by Ethan and try to cheer him up by saying things like, “Do you want a drink?  Do you want a banana?”  “I’m going to sit right here and not leave your side, E.”  “Do you want me to rub your sore shoulder?”  Although he didn’t want anything, I did finally get a few smiles out of him.

I am of the opinion that, even as a mere spectator, wrestling is extremely draining!  To anticipate the matches and then watch my own boy plus the other boys (which are also “my” boys) wrestle….to see them fight so very hard, get hurt, bleed, lose, win.  It’s all quite exciting.  I hate it in some ways.  The gym is a bee hive of activity and so very loud, for instance.  But it’s also a lot of fun and I’m always always impressed by the strength of every wrestler.

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Rich has someone tape each match and I noticed that Gage is always quite eager to watch himself right after he’s done with a match.  One of my wrestling mama-buddies is Nicole in the striped shirt (her son behind her is a great friend of Jacob and Ethan).

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Sarah runs as wild as possible, plays with Seth and James (the other coach’s little boy) and this Saturday she had a silly situation with static charged hair.

Grace is a team manager and keeps score with the book.

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Seth took his shoes off so he could get on the wrestling mats as much as he could, got scolded for it several times, but he is like everyone’s little brother and they love him.  I took this picture because he was actually standing still, watching a boy get his ankle examined by a trainer.  He would silently look at what the trainer was doing and then look at the face of the boy.  The only thing that scared me was that he might have gotten it into his head to think an injury would be really cool…like, it’s a sign of being a big-time athlete.

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Well, E had two forfeits to wait through and then low and behold, he was up against the very same guy who beat him badly the first match.  But this time Ethan came very close to winning.

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He fought so so hard.  As usual, I felt as if I were fighting along with him.  Oh how painful it is to have them lose by only one point!  But his dad was thrilled to see him come back and fight hard.

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After the match discussion.

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Well, the next day was Seth’s turn.  Finally he could be on the mats all the time he wanted.  His first match was a loss and he got dumped on his head a few times.  It was quite deflating for our boy Seth.  But after resting on Dad for a little while, he very bravely wrestled three more times and won each time, receiving a 2nd place medal.

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Seth working on pinning a boy.

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Caleb wrestled three times and lost each one…however, he was braver by the last match and was much improved.

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David wrestled twice and lost both, however he still received a third place medal because there were only four boys in his bracket.  He wrestled much better than he did last year and was exciting to watch.

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David smiling because he’s getting away from Mom’s camera.

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My three younger boys only have one more tournament to be in but Ethan will have several more opportunities to wrestle before the High School season is over.

 

{this moment} J A C O B

{this moment} ~ A Friday ritual. — capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

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Last night was Senior night for wrestling and Jacob was honored.

It’s sort of sad and terrifying to have an 18 year old Senior Son in the house, but he is so ready for life!  Yes, he still needs a driver’s license, college education, a good job, but he already has the important things– a good upbringing, good attitude, good looks, and good woman.  🙂

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Is there anything cuter than watching the boys dive into the middle of the mat right before a meet?  These kids are so fun and good natured.  They are a joy to watch.

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There was this handsome assistant coach………..

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He got to shake the principal’s hand and I was given some beautiful flowers, which I took home and divided up between myself and the sisters.

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The other team did not have a guy to wrestle Jacob’s weight class so Rich bumped him up to wrestle the next weight class.

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Jacob made the hometown proud with his aggressiveness.

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And he came out on top for a pin and a win.

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Well done, Jacob!  I am so proud of you but I’m also sort of sad to be watching all these “last times.”

 

 

one step at a time

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 See how pointed and sharp the corners of this first place wrestling metal are?  Hold that thought.

Thank you for the get well wishes for my husband.  He still has groin and hernia pain but he is happily limping around and getting better by the moment.  He went to school last night to coach, and he went back to work today for a half day.  His spirits are such that despite any odd shooting pain he may feel, he is joyful because of the relief in having the hard parts over.

Somewhat ironically, on Saturday and Sunday when their Dad was recovering from his wrestling injury, all five of our sons were participating in wrestling tournaments.

Uncle Jason watched Jacob and Ethan both win their weight classes in the J.V. tournament on Saturday, while Rich and I were waiting to leave the hospital.

On Sunday, I left Rich at home with the girls and drove an hour away to watch David (12), Caleb (9), and Seth (5), each wrestle in their first tournament of the season.  Ethan was there as an assistant coach.

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The school was loud and hot.  I was thankful for my tank top that I wore layered under a sweatshirt.  I was thankful for the concession stand so I didn’t have to be concerned about food and drink.  I was thankful for the bathrooms everywhere.  I was also thankful that Jacob and Michael came later on in the morning, to watch with me.  Finally, I was thankful that Sarah Joy was at home with Rich and Grace.

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(Jacob, Michael, and Ethan, and Seth)

Seth was adorable.  He had been itching to wrestle for over a year.  Last year he was a spectator of his older brothers.  Now he is finally an athlete on the team and he smiled the entire time.  He was a joy to watch, in fact, I got a little sentimental at times watching him.

This is the video of his first match ever.  I started taping right at the starting whistle and Seth immediately pounced on his opponent.

Caleb’s group wrestled in the morning, too, and he did well but lost each match.

Here is a video of a portion of one match:

Over several hours, Caleb wrestled three times, and Seth wrestled four times.

I am happy to announce that little Seth ended up winning all of his matches and was given a first place metal.

He said, “I knew I was a good wrestler!”  and then later on, “I wish Dad was here!”  He was as proud as a peacock and I was, too.

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He never got tired.  In fact, he never stopped moving.

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He was so active that at times I sent him over to hang around with coach, so I didn’t have to defend myself any longer.

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(Mike took this picture as Seth was trying to perform moves on me.)

He wrestled everything that day; the wall, the floor, his mom, his teammates, his coach, his brothers…….

…..and then……

Dave and I were talking, sitting cross legged on the floor.  Seth was hanging around, swinging his metal (see first photo) when suddenly it accidently bounced sharply off the back of Dave’s unsuspecting head.  (Seth felt terrible).

We immediately stood up and when Dave looked at his hand after holding the back of his head, it was covered.in.blood, my friends.  Blood dripped down.  I rushed for the paper towels…….poor Dave could not see the wound so he was scared, but after cleaning him up and looking at it we knew that he was okay to continue wrestling, it was a only a very small cut.

His coach is from the era of “brothers and boys throwing a punch now and then is healthy and normal” so to encourage and distract Dave I heard him say, “David, when you get home later, when mom’s not looking,” he punched his palm, “punch him in the kisser!”

Coach and I took Seth’s metal away from him.

David was a wreck.  He was upset, pale, and had to struggle to hold back tears.  My heart sank.

He lost his first match, and in the midst of it, they had to stop and wrap his head all up in gauze to stop the bleeding.

He felt so self conscious and foolish that right after losing, he went in the hall to hide.  I went out to find him and encouraged him to use his feelings to be aggressive, rather than give up.  I told him I was proud of him.  His coach did a great job of motivating him, too, and I went back to the stands to wait for his next match.

He fought hard and to my surprise, won it.  Coach didn’t know where I was, so when I went to the team to congratulate Dave, he said, “Did you see David?  I couldn’t find you!  He did great!”  I had watched it all from the stands, sort of hiding, myself.

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And, to make a perfect ending to a crazy-day, he also won his third and final match.

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The relief was visible on his face, and he went to collect his hard-earned metal.

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Well done, my son.  You are well on your way to impressive manhood.

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The wrestling for our family was done, but we stuck around to watch just a few more teammates.

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Mike took the other boys in his car, so Dave and I had the car to ourselves.  We stopped at Dunkin’ Donuts on the way, and he read a book while I listened to the radio and drove us back home again.  It had been an exciting day.  To say the least.

I was rather tired of all the excitement, to tell the truth.  How thankful I am for a loving heavenly Father.  We can trust Him completely with every moment of our lives, so that even during busy seasons of life, a peace that passes all understanding is there from above to nurture us along.  He gets all the glory for everything and always and His loving hand is so blessedly and obviously underneath us all, holding and loving us, even during the most difficult of times.

“This is the blessed life—not anxious to see far down the road nor overly concerned about the next step, not eager to choose the path nor weighted down with the heavy responsibilities of the future, but quietly following the Shepherd, one step at a time.”  F.B.Meyer