“….a little boy grows up so fast….”
I was secretly calling Saturday the last day of summer because it was our oldest son’s last day at home before leaving for college the next morning. So I made the effort to take some photos of the ordinary family living that I hold so dear to my heart, knowing deep down that while life will go on just as beautiful and ordinary as ever, parts of it were ending and beginning anew in other parts of the world…….not too far, thankfully. Jacob and Ethan will be at college together in Vermont this year (3 hours away), and our sweet Grace will be in Pennslyvania (about five hours distance). As the children grow up, things within the home change, but the bond we have stays true, and the love we share will never die, and indeed, my deepest desire and hope is that it will continue to grow up and out as our family grows up and and out.
So these efforts were made by me in the realm of photography, and the only other effort I made personally was to be “hands off” on the day and let it be as normal as possible, because I have finally learned that while deep in my soul I am in a type of motherly mourning for the fleetness of the years, no one else in the family necessarily needs to know. 🙂
So what did we do? Jacob headed for work, sicker than a dog, and Rich left for the chiropractor’s with Ethan (they are both getting work done on their backs) and Caleb (who needed a hair cut after the doctor’s appointment).
Confession: somehow, even though I was truly trying, I just realized this morning that I took not one single photo of Grace, so I am inserting this one from last weekend, when I caught the sisters sharing a moment over pancakes. In reality, Grace was so busy on Saturday….she had driver’s practice in the morning, and then worked all afternoon until 7pm….that I somehow didn’t take any pictures of her.
The brightest red wildflower is in bloom down by the banks of our stream. It’s like a jungle down there so I can’t get as close as I’d like……
I watched busy buzzing bees collect pollen all over the wild and tall Joe Pye Weed and then, saw the most beautiful dragonfly I’d ever seen…..
RED! DARK RED!
with shimmering wings! I admired it until it flitted away.
Next to the garage we have a tiny wild pond where bullfrogs hang out all day. I enjoy sneaking around to spy on them and they always freeze like this and stare at me. I want to sit down there sometime and see what they REALLY do……
And then, the guys finally got home and went to work on Rich’s car. Yep, that was the real theme of the weekend; “Put The Motor In”.
Rich has been itching to do it all winter long and had big boxes in the house which were all delivered and saved carefully for The Day.
Nice haircut, Caleb.
Now get to work!
Nothing makes Rich more annoyed than not being able to find his tools because the children have been running off with them and not returning them to the proper place. Nothing that is, except maybe water running through the ceiling because Seth didn’t have the shower curtain in the bathtub and was getting water everywhere on the floor upstairs…..ask me how I know this…..so the first thing they did was find Dad’s tools, while Rich and Ethan organized and Sarah cleaned.
The car is under the tarp. Waiting for it’s motor.
I’m pretty sure this is it. 🙂
Sarah was very conscientious about sweeping the floor.
Seth wasn’t as conscientious about finding Dad’s tools.
Oh and Jacob was able to get out of work a little early and he went straight to bed, spending his last day at home SICK and asleep.
(I think it’s amusing that the dog is in a lot of these photos being ignored. But he gets his revenge later.)
Bringing the boxes out of the house (finally!) and into the garage.
Finally they were ready and the younger boys snuck away. David was called for duty now and then, but Ethan was the main helper of the entire day all the way up until it was too late to visit Tessa and he was secretly annoyed.
I mean, as his mother, I could sort of tell. But Rich, as his father, certainly didn’t care. He needed his son and Ethan has vacation days coming up this week to visit his girlfriend. (It reminded me of when Rich and I were dating all those summers ago and he had to bale hay all weekend for his dad while I was left to my own amusement at home…..so I took pity while Rich just felt like it was the only natural thing to do; helping Dad…there’s no way out of it, not even girlfriends.)
The younger boys hung out on the patio between the house and the garage.
And I found Sarah had vanished to her room to play the DS. So I sent her right back outside to enjoy the beautiful day.
They made a cake.
Eventually, hours and hours later, I picked the camera back up to take a picture of CHICKEN that I grilled myself……
And this is where the dog got his revenge for being “ignored//neglected” all day.
After we all ate, he stole the leftovers off the kitchen counter, eating the chicken and neatly leaving the sticks on the carpet in the living room. We all got mad because that was really good chicken and I had made a ton so we could enjoy the leftovers, not feed them to the dog.
We ended our day by watching TV on the couch in the dark, all tired out.
This is where things get sad you might want to turn away.
I woke up at 5:30 on Sunday morning to see my son off. Rich was already awake and in the garage with his car but the rest of the family was asleep as Jacob finished packing his car to leave, although I did hear Seth stir and call out, “Bye, Jay!” from his bed, as he will greatly miss his big brother, too.
I followed him around, back and forth to the car and house, not unlike the dog, silently and with wishful eyes.
We hugged twice. We held it together.
It was a beautiful morning, with bits of pink in the sky.
I looked at his dear possessions everywhere in his car, that say “Jacob” to me in so many ways……his collection of hats from working at “LIDS” all summer….his new sneakers that I bought for him during a quick shopping trip we had together last week.
His music, his new fridge, all his clothes and books (he took a big box of books, which made me smile and touched my heart…I remember when he read them all…and sister Grace struggled with sharing some of them..namely the JRR Tolkien books…), my dear 20 year old son, how thankful I am that I had all of these years with you before you moved on to new adventures taking classes and playing football at college. I am blessed to call you son and friend. We’ve had such good times together, haven’t we? Your downstairs room in the basement is too quiet and still already but we’ll keep it ready for those visits back home!
“So the life of the true home flows on, sometimes in the bright sunshine, sometimes in the deep shadow; yet whether in the sunshine or in shadow it brings blessing. It shelters us in the day of storm. Its friendships remain true and loyal when adversity fails and other friendships are broken. It lays holy hands of benediction upon our heads as we go out to meet life’s struggles and duties. Its sacred influences keep us from many a mistake. Its memories are our richest inheritance. Its inspirations are the secret strength of our lives in days of toil and care. Then it teaches us to look toward heaven and the great Home in which all our hearts, hopes, and dreams shall be realized, and where the broken ties of earth shall be reunited.” JR Miller
So fresh from dropping Finn off on Saturday, I just cried big mom tears for yours and Jacob’s “goodbye for now”. I know E’s and Grace’s are just around the corner and my heart aches for you. THREE! Have you seen the move Up? Surely you have. When Ellie writes that note to Carl. “Thanks for the adventure. Now go have a new one.” I think of that today.
I KNEW you would understand, sweet and tenderhearted Penny! I try not to watch UP too closely because it’s SO sad in the beginning …. but that quote is perfect. I’m not as concerned about missing the boys as much because they will have each other this year but Grace I am trying not to think about. She leaves next Friday. I’m going to miss her terribly.
Oh no. 😦 I know I can’t even know the half of what it must feel like to watch your birds fly from the nest, but it’s still sad for us who have gotten to know them, too. I know, as you so beautifully expressed, that your family will grow and continue on. I pray for for their health and safety and God’s blessings as they venture out as adults.
As always…beautiful photos, beautiful family and beautiful sentiments. God bless you today, Shanda.
God bless you, dear bloggy friend!!
Goin to be me soon. Keeping you in my prayers. Our mother hearts never stop loving them no matter how big they get,or when they fly. We always carry them with us.
So true, that is something I didn’t expect from motherhood…that my heart will never be the same again with the love and constant thoughts and prayers and concern I have for them! Blessings to your family, Christina!! xo
Sweet post…..sniff sniff….
thank you B ❤
Such a good post. I remember those days, and lots of hugs and missing. So good you captured so many of the everyday moments.
This is a tear jerker. My oldest is 11….Is Grace going to be anywhere near Lancaster?