I’m avoiding the news, but I am aware of current events; all the issues spread across the land like a heavy cloud. I think about the issues because I care, I wish I could figure things out neatly and satisfyingly. Its frustrating.
I’m reading a memoir written by Lorene Cary, “a bright, ambitious black teenager from Philadelphia, who in 1972 was transplanted into the formerly all-white, all-male environs of the elite Saint Paul’s School in New Hampshire, where she became a scholarship student in a ‘boot camp’ for future American leaders. Like any good student, she was determined to succeed. But Cary was also determined to succeed without selling out. This wonderfully frank and perceptive memoir describes the perils and ambiguities of that double role, in which failing calculus and winning a student election could both be interpreted as betrayals of ones own skin.” ~quote from book description on the back cover
There are some hyper-sensitive souls among us who are in near-continual grief over the unfairness of life; sickness, death, discrimination, cruelty, abuse, neglect, handicaps, poverty, and so on. It all seems so overwhelming and heartbreaking that the more we think about it, the worse our own inner being becomes.
We need to lean on you more stoic, logical ones. We need to be nurtured. You help us with your strength and understanding; THANK YOU.
Oftentimes, though, we feel alone. We know who we are; deep feelers in a world of hurt. We can’t imagine adding our own hurts to the pile, so we suffer alone. We use our minds and our quiet books, our ears, and our hearts to try with all our might to make sense of it all……….
Jesus was called a man of sorrows.
“He was despised and rejected, a man of sorrows, acquainted with the deepest grief.” Isaiah 53:3
When he hung on the cross, He cried out to the Father, “WHY HAVE YOU FORSAKEN ME?” (Matthew 27:46)
He was born, and lived his years in this world, in grief (but He didn’t wallow in it, he had things to do.)
“I carry out the will of the One who sent me, not my own will.” John 5:30
The other day my son confessed, “But I don’t like to cry, it feels weak.”
I turned around to look into his dear face and reminded him that the shortest verse in the Bible was “Jesus wept”…….It takes great strength to cry.
The Bible also says, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” (Matthew 5:4)
Maybe the sensitive among us shouldn’t try so hard to be “happy” and “upbeat”.
Maybe their anguish, like all anguish, is the key to something different, a sweet pathway leading to the overwhelming comfort of a loving Heavenly Father, who, like a mother, takes the time to scoop up a crying child and spend all the time her baby needs her, holding and rocking and singing over her, with soft motherly kisses in her hair……..soothing and gentle.
“It hurts, it hurts!” I know, dear one, come near to me and let me love you.
“It’s not fair, it’s not fair! I want to fix it and I can’t!” Yes, sweet love, now you can let go and wait for Me to fix it for you. I love you, trust me my darling child.
and when it comes to that, we can continue.
In my book, when Lorene accepts the fact that despite all the hours and hard work, calculus still wasn’t making sense to her, she would fail the class, and she went to a friend in tears. It wasn’t fair, she felt that the teacher wasn’t treating her fairly because she was a female student in a time when the college was just starting to try co-education, she felt that he favored his male students, she was tired and frustrated. Her friend listened to her and said, “It’s hard to know when it’s really happening or when it’s in our heads. There’s nothing we can do about that right now-the fact of it or the way we feel-except to do what we’re doing and be the best we can.”
This struck me as wonderful, because when all is said and prayed and felt, the next thing is to DO.
I’m a thinker and a feeler, I often forget the health-giving gift of WORK.
write the blog
get some exercise
clean like I mean it
care for the needs of my family
I wrote down a list of things that truly take me out of my head:
MUSIC; singing, playing piano
COOKING and BAKING (this could be an all day affair if I let it! why not? it’s fun to chose recipes and make delicious dishes)
NATURE; especially bugs (they are everywhere and easy to photograph)
BOOKS; reading, bookstores, the library
COUNTED CROSS STITCH (I passed a little stitchery shop last week and made myself turn around to visit it, I walked it, it was like an oasis of beautiful colorful yarns. I picked out a small kit and purchased a tiny pair of scissors from a sweet older lady in a blue dress).
PHOTOGRAPHY; (I’m enjoying a Polaroid camera!)
The kitten we adopted is very very sick. We watched her weaken and took her to the vet on Saturday for medicine and special food. The very next day, she was huddled in the corner in a little bed we made for her. I had already given her medicine and water through a dropper and was discussing her impending death in the kitchen to my husband. Our sensitive boy, the one who doesn’t want to cry, overheard us and silently went into the closet and wouldn’t come out for over an hour. When he finally came out, he was sobbing, “I just don’t want her to die alone! I don’t want her to be in that closet and die by herself!” We comforted him and encouraged him, we stepped up our game with trying to nurse the poor thing back to health and keeping her company. She made it through the day, and even walked over to her new friend, who was on the couch, and jumped up on to his lap.
We still don’t know if she will make it, but we are learning what everyone in the world is learning; life hurts. it’s unfair. we want to change things and sometimes we can’t. Jesus understands. and those who love us will comfort us.
and then we stand up, and get to work.
hi shanda…….this was so well-thought out and beautifully written. you are such a treasure. sending love and hugs to you, your family, and your sweet little kitten.
I don’t think I can say it any better than Connie above. You have a gift, and maybe this is why you are hit so hard….to keep you down so that you won’t do what you do and bless others. I’m so happy to see you blogging. Praying your sweet kitten makes a full recovery.
I can’t edit a comment for some reason. What I meant is that I think satan would love nothing more than to shut you down emotionally, mentally and physically…to keep you from sharing your heart…because you bless others so much when you do.
Have you read, “Wired to Create?” It was eye opening for me. I never thought my deep thinking/sensitivity/profound empathy had any link to my creativity. Mind blown. I enjoyed it because I thought, “the Lord truly does use all things for good…amazing.” Anyway, let me know if you’ve read it and what you thought about it! Chris P.S. Praying for the kitty and I love that you have your boy permission to cry…I’m still working on giving myself that.❤️
I’m so sorry about the kitty, I hope she makes it.