The children had the day off from school today. It was a beautiful sunny day, so bright it almost made me squint. I was able to sleep until 8:30 and then got up to make coffee. I sat at the table and wrote letters and David sat next to me eating his pancakes. When he sneezed a bunch of times he asked me if I thought sneezes became more forceful as a person aged and I said I didn’t know. Then we talked about lungs and how sad it was that people smoked or vaped and damaged their good lungs in such a fashion. Dave started sounding a little judgemental so I tried to tell him, “Humans are weak creatures, Dave.” “Well, it’s a good thing I’m not a beta male,” he said as he got up to put his plate in the sink. “What in the world does that mean?” I asked. “Beta males tend to be followers. That’s not me. I’m an alpha male.” in all seriousness.
I laughed and laughed.
Later on, I asked Caleb and then David if they wanted to go downtown with me. I was thinking about coffee and postage stamps. They both declined. Caleb declined in a friendly absentminded fashion, but David declined hesitantly with fear that he was hurting my feelings, maybe. I said not to worry,” wouldn’t you feel worse if I just left without inviting you?” “I would say ‘Where’s Mom?'”, he admitted. Right.
I didn’t invite Seth and Sarah. They were a bit overwhelming today. They’ve found a new passion and it’s noisier than bottle flipping. They’ve begun “dice stacking” instead. To do this you need “casino dice” and straight-sided cups. Well, we don’t have casino dice (they have been ordered after Seth wore me down) so every board game in the house has been ransacked for regular dice. As far as straight sided cups; two of my plastic spice jars have been emptied into sandwich bags and two containers of baking powder have also been put into baggies and their metal tops cut off with a steak knife. Seth and Sarah do this dice stacking game and also play with their plastic animals, which involves taking books out of the bookcase to make platforms for them. Everywhere they go they leave behind messes and I love it. (and make them clean them later on)
“Whoever turned the bathroom into not a bathroom better fix it,” David said in his best alph male voice. Turns out that Sarah turned it into an animal land (remember my theme song?) The sink was full of water and there were animals posed everywhere and David just couldn’t use the bathroom like that.
I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW DEEP DOWN THANKFUL I AM FOR THESE CHILDREN!!!!!!!
Caleb, who complains too much but then gets goofy and then comes to give me a hug and almost knocks me off balance and says “I hope I can cook as good as you someday.”
David who so obviously enjoys being near me and watched Forrest Gump with me yesterday and shed a tear or two and plays the piano and puts himself on a fitness schedule and feels bad when he tells me no when I invite him places.
Seth who snuggles next to me in the evenings during TV time and sings me *Mom Is a Good Mom* songs and wants to give me hugs to hurt my bones and brags that his feet are the same size as mine and is so noisy sometimes that I tell him he’s being annoying and he pretends to get offended but he’s smiling with accomplisment.
And Sarah who loves to read and plays and holds her own with her brothers and was the only one who went out trick or treating last night and is the only daughter at home now and wants to be just like her big sister Grace and is NINE already and my baby.
What would I do without them? Or their three older siblings? My heart aches with love and longing. Longing for what? I guess just for all of it, to remember it and look forward to the rest of it, wherever God leads me as a mother, I don’t have many regrets. The biggest one being that I cared too much about sleep at times. Really, sleep is overrated. Yes, it’s scarce for years but then it returns. I would say now; don’t worry. And if the child can’t nap now and then that’s okay, too. I used to be such a stickler for naps for the children. It was my only free time of the day. But I wish I hadn’t been. I wish I had just rolled with it more. I did get more lax through the years. Typical I suppose. We even let Seth and Sarah stay up later at night …… we like having them with us. We know how fast they grow.
I made a big big pan of apple crisp today and David peeled the apples for it.
It’s been a nice day.
Here are some more Washington D.C. photos from Sunday:

Washinton Monument……sky high and ringed around with flags!

The sneakers that hurt my feet.

The two older boys were wrestling in their first meet of the season and we decided to sit and rest. Rich checked the live feed just as Ethan was in his match! Simply providential!


Ethan wrestling…..as we sat in the shadow of the Washinton Monument, watching proudly. Kinda sweet!


The reflecting pool looking toward the Lincoln Memorial.
(I love how it turned out with the sunshine.)


soooooooo beautiful
And then, the moment I was waiting for……my favorite president:

His birthday is February 12.
My birthday is February 12.
We are birthday twins!
This is one of the many reasons why Abe is my favorite.


There was a crowd but I had Rich wait, and work, and angle to make it look like it was just Lincoln and me.

words of Lincoln

Rich trying to see if he could find Jacob’s wresting match.
Shows the greatness of the columns and the monument.

Lincoln Memorial looking to the Washington Monument



Arlington Memorial Bridge (the cemetary was closed by this time and we didn’t get to go inside).
We walked 9 miles on this day. The only body part between the two of us that got tired was my feet. And I blame my sneakers for that. When I came home I bought new ones.
Tomorrow I will share photos of Julia’s kitchen!
Happy Friday evening!
You are loved.
Shanda! So so lovely to see you back. You know, you really spoke to me about the sleep part… Nathaniel just went to sleep 20 minutes ago. When he wouldn’t go down at 8 and was up, I admittedly was irritated (oh that “me time”) — but afterwards, I absolutely HATED the feeling and even told Nicky to stop me when I get that way. Because these moments do go by and they grow so fast!! We typically let him stay up until he crashes — because we really do love being around him, too — and boy do we get an earful from everyone we know. So thank you for that part 🙂 xo
I hear you. xo Love you!
hi shanda…….thanks for sharing more pics! bummer about your shoes, though, as there is so much walking to do while you are in DC. Oh well, it didn’t seem to stop you from doing all you wanted and from having fun. and as usual, your kid stories are always entertaining 🎲
Thanks for your mom reflections/advice. I’m not where you are yet, but I like your wisdom.
Sarah
The Lincoln Memorial is my favorite!
Washington is amazing. I hope I get to go someday.
I’m still a stickler for sleep. My days are too busy and I need sleep!
I understand! You definately need sleep!
This post made me smile. 🙂 Those are some resourceful children you have (the spice story). I like that they know how to re-purpose and play imaginative games. The bathroom story reminds me of how me and my best friend (male) use to play in the sand for hours with plastic dinosaurs, army men and G.I. Joes.
I guess everyone has regrets what they did or didn’t do during their life, but as an outsider looking in, I’ve always thought you were the epitome of a ‘good mom’….a fun mom…a mom who really sees her children, and nurtures them and their unique gifts and personalities. Though you might think that is what every parent does…it’s not…and I so appreciate that in you. ❤
Oh, that last sentence…..really hit me, thank you. You’re a gift.
Thank you. Your comment hit me, too. I treasure kind words. ❤