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  3. I love the G. M. quote and agree with it 100% I would rather be trusted than loved and would rather those I know to be trustworthy than loveable. The two are connected for me. I have had a friend named Mindy since I was three and what I love so deeply about her is that she has always always been so trustworthy and honest.
    I think what makes this post, this resolution difficult, when it comes to friends is that some are so sensitive, that they do not want to hear something that might hurt them, so we alter what we say to make them happy.  It is like you said there is no sure answer. It is hard to find the balance with truth and to speak it with love..pure love. But I agree that it is something to strive for.
    Thank you for the post I am sure I will be chewing on it today.

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  5. I am amazed you posted this, because we just had a sermon from Proverbs on friendship that mentioned these principles.  A godly friend will tell the truth (Faithful are the wounds of a friend …) in love (speaking the truth in love) in the type of discipleship, building relationship you model (as iron sharpeneth iron …).  From our backgrounds, since the love aspect was often missing, one of two things happened.  Either the truth was spoken in criticism, or the falsehood was spoken in love. 
    Setting a new example in this area is difficult, but vital.  Personally, I believe something good can be found in any situation – the turkey was the perfect size for that meal, and the dressing was so moist!  What was that seasoning you used?  If someone really wants helpful advice, then give it – I struggled with turkeys for years before someone told me that cooking it in a bag saves clean-up and makes the meat so juicy and delicious!  I think turkey is one of the hardest meats to cook.  Can I have your sweet potato recipe?
    A very close, treasured friend called to ask me my opinion regarding her re-evaluation of a certain personal standard last year.  I did not agree with her, but the main idea I wanted to impress on her was how much I loved her, regardless of what she did or didn’t do.  And further more, that small issue would not matter in eternity, while our relationship would.  I pray that conversation built our friendship even stronger, since I love her so desperately.
    You have much to give in your continued walk with the Lord.  The love and concern you show to others around you will further your ministry of encouragement.  Your family, your friends, and your fellow Christians will then grow with you and bask in the love you radiate from Him!

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  6. Wow, that’s some deep thinking!  Something I’ve pondered over too.  How to answer in an honest way, but yet not hurt feelings.  Some good thoughts to start the New Year on!  Thanks…

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  7. What a great resolution. 🙂 I think a lot of times we just “SPEAK” without giving it much thought- because many times I have found myself saying things and later thinking, “What did I say that for??” Not that I was lying…I was just “talking”. (LOL)
    My husband and I tease each other all the time…sometimes mercilessly (isnt it strange how over time husbands become like brothers to us?) sometimes I think we actually say what we really mean in sarcasm and teasing manner to cover the “bite” that comes with it. Does that make sense? Anyways- I love that you and your husband are working on that together. 🙂
    Have a great New Year. 🙂
    Your comments are always loved! -Casandra

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  8. Good blog today..very thought provoking…..still working through it….but thanks for sharing your heart! May the Lord give great grace and victory to you specifically in this area in your life in 2007! Love ya,
    B

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  11. Good Post Shanda!  I have often pondered these thoughts and even the teasing things between husband and wife are ver often done in our house too.  Thank you for reminding me.  God has definitely used this to convict me of these very same things.

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  12. Thanks for sharing this post.  My husband and I have gone through a similar situation before- it’s wise to get it in check before feelings get hurt.  I heard an amazing sermon from our pastor a few years ago on the subject of  being lovingly truthful.  All of his sermons are good, but this one has stuck with me.    

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  13. I must (painfully) confess too, that even if I do not like something, if someone dear to me asks my opinion, I often try to spare their feelings and end up being untruthful. I do owe it to the ones I care about to say the truth in love! Thank you for your honesty, and for this post. 🙂

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