50 “Promises” for Marriage
To Inspire You
1. Start each day with a kiss 2. Date once a week 3. Wear your wedding ring at all times
4. Accept differences 5. Be polite 6. Be gentle 7. Give gifts
8. Smile often 9. Touch 10. Talk about dreams
11. Select a song that can be “our song”
12. Give back rubs 13. Laugh together
14. Send a card for no reason 15. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks
16. Get your portrait taken–without the kids
17. Listen, encourage
18. Do it his or her way
19. Know his or her needs 20. Call during the day
21. Fix the other person’s breakfast
22. Compliment twice a day 23. SLOW DOWN
24. Hold hands 25. Cuddle 26. Show respect
27. Ask for each other’s opinion
28. Look your best 29. Welcome the other person home
30. Wink at each other 31. Apologize 32. Forgive
33. Celebrate birthdays in a big way
34. Set up a romantic getaway
35. Ask, “what can I do to make you happier”
36. Be positive 37. Be kind 38. Be vulnerable
39. Respond quickly to the other person’s requests
40. Talk about your love
41. Reminisce about your favorite times together
42. Treat each other’s friends and relatives with courtesy
43. Send flowers every Valentine’s Day and anniversary
44. Admit when wrong 45. Pray for each other daily
46. Watch sunsets together
47. Say “I love you” frequently
48. End the day with a hug
49. Seek outside help when needed
Holding Hands in Church!
Yesterday in church my husband and I walked the halls, peeking into classrooms to check on our children. We were holding hands as we went and one of our church widows saw us. She told us how much she loved seeing us hold hands and made us promise that “we always would”.
It made me start thinking about Christian couples and what a blessing it always is to me when I see them “showing love” to each other. A look, a touch, a sign to the other that “I know you’re there”, “I love you”, “You’re my special someone”.
Can we be examples of what a Christian marriage should be? What a powerful statement to those around us as they see us demonstrate love.
Kissing at a Red Light!
This weekend Rich and I were going somewhere with the kids and we had to stop at a traffic light. The couple in front of us took the opportunity to kiss! At the next intersection, we decided to try it. It was so cute to turn around and see Grace grinning at us from the backseat.
Can we be examples to our children? Those little eyes are watching, watching all the time! What a blessing to demonstrate a solid, healthy marriage in front of those observant eyes! I’ve watched 30 years of my own parent’s marriage and the obvious love they share toward one another.
“In the tiny book of Titus, I discovered that I am to hold my husband first in my heart after God. That’s the clear implication of God’s instruction to the older women in the church who are to teach the younger women how to be women after God’s heart. The first thing married women are to learn and practice is to love their husbands” (Titus 2:3-4) Elizabeth George, in A Woman After God’s Own Heart
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Thanks, Shan. You know this has been on my heart lately. I love this and the pictures are beautiful. I love sitting behind you and Rich in church. You’re always holding hands or hooked in each other’s arms. I know you’re teaching your children what a true, loving, Christian marriage is all about. I know from experience that it won’t be lost on them.
ebabe hubby would love all of it except #48. Enough said!
We are the only ones who “touch in church” here; the teens giggle at us, but eabe Hubby says “at least someone here is happy!”
On the flip side, I only saw my parents touch once in public. There marriage ended after 25 years.
It ain’t everything, but it sure is something!
Forgot to tell you … love the new look
Thanks for sharing, I am still tickled when I see my parents holding hands. Jeff and I tryto sit together in church and we do hold hands but sometimes we end up sitting between children to separate them!! LOL
Shan, Thanks for the inspiration. Have you gone throught he bible study “A Woman after God’s own hear”? I did with a few new friends and it was very good. We are models to everyone watching but the greatest influene you’ll have is on your children. I hope my husband and I never stop holding hands, kissing, and showing out love in simple ways in public/church. I love your photo’s.
This entry was quite a blessing to me to read today. 🙂 Wonderful reminders…
Very sweet. It is neat to see God working in your marriage and growing you closer!
Saw you stopped by my site! Just wanted to say hello! Have a wonderful week in the Lord!!
Those were very good Another great book that I am reading is “Created to be his Helpmeet”, I don’t agree with “everything” she says, but it is an awesome book. That is so good that you and your husband hold hands in public, very sweet.
Sweet post and good reminder of what I can do for him….instead of waiting for what he may or may not do for me. Sometimes it’s easier to be other-focused with those outside our families and forget to show love to our own husbands and children.
Thanks for your comment on my blog.
I love seeing my parents treasure each other. It’s one of the greatest gifts they could give me– a true reminder of their devoted love. Thanks for sharing!
(And also, thanks for the encouragement!)
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Shan, I just realized that there are only 49 points… where’s number 50? Or are we just supposed to use our imagination? 🙂
Yeah, I deleted one. LOLUse your imagination. It’s more fun that way. . . . .
Love all the ideas!
Excellent post and oh, so true!
We teach the “Preparation for Parenting” series to first time expectant parents. One of the things that is really stressed to young couples is the importance of the husband/wife relationship…..that a family is complete when a couple is married. Children are an extension of that family and therefore it is very important to honor one another highly each day setting aside “couch time” to sit and talk and be just husband and wife. This is a time when the children are not allowed to be a part. It gives the marriage that stability of each partner being able to count on time with the other with their undivided attention and it gives the children security to see Mom and Dad elevating their relationship and the time spent enjoying each other. We have implemented that over the years and both of us so enjoy our time talking and catching up on each other’s day. It makes me feel cherished to see that I’m so valuable to him that he will take the leadership to make sure that we have that time, every day.
Great post……I love it!
Have a wonderful day.
Good reminders! and way to go with quoting Elizabeth George. She is awesome! 🙂 have a great week.
I met her thru here. My daughter is at the age where she says… eww… dont hug or kiss in front of me. But ultimately I know that she is growing up to be a loving, nurturing individual.
I loved the description of holding hands in church! Also kissing at a red light, awesome photos to go with it!
How sweet, thanks for sharing. I too love holding hands and sneaking kisses with my husband
What a great post! Thanks for commenting on my site…I have enjoyed perusing your site. You have some really great words to share. If you don’t mind, can I repost the “fifty promises” about marriage…it’s wonderful!